To everyone who has a heart (and doesn’t have an excessively nosy predisposition to pry into their neighbors’ business, which has nothing to do with them anyway! >.< j/k!),
As a single 25-year-old woman, I’ll tell you—it’s hard to find love. Especially true love, the kind that makes you care enough to stick through the hard times with someone when you’d be better off fending for yourself, makes you endure all their annoying little traits and makes you share your bed, your home, your heart, your most secret, prized recipe for kahlua chocolate cake with them…
So, having gone to my fair share of weddings last year, I know it’s a special and important moment to be able to stand up with your beloved in front of friends, family, state and (if you swing that way) God to make a solemn, difficult, extremely long-term and wonderful commitment and declare that you have found someone to care that much about and will call “family” to live and weather life with ever after.
To those very few, lucky, blessed friends of mine who have found such happiness, I say, “Congratulations—and good for you!” because finding love? That’s no easy task!
So tell me this—when someone has struggled through the exhausting and disheartening journey to find love and actually, against all odds, found it—what right does anyone have to stand in their way? It’s so hard to find someone to love in this world (who loves you back~), what right have we to tell them their feelings, their love, their desire to commit—is worthless or invalid, just because they don’t look like what we imagine a “couple” to be? Whatever a couple looks like—be they of two different races, two different genders, both the same race or both the same gender—it’s the same feelings of devotion and care and commitment that make them want to join their lives together officially. In this world where selfish-ness reigns and divorce rates are soaring, why should we refuse people who want to be together?
Go back fifty years; I’m sure a racially-mixed couple looked awful to good, old, salt-of-the-earth Americans back then, but what do you think of them now? If they’re Latino and White or Black and Asian, what does it matter? Did you find it hard to picture yourself in such a relationship when you were younger? What do you think of it now? What’s important in the end is that you/they love each other, isn’t it? Can’t you see the parallel with today’s situation as well? They love each other, so what does it matter what they look like? If we were going to limit marriage to couples everyone deemed picturesque, I’d be out of luck, wouldn’t I? :P
All kidding aside, allowing gay couples to marry is not going to effect you fiscally, spiritually, socially (not really, anyway—maybe there’d be more tolerance, but when is more harmony ever a bad thing?). Isn’t life hard enough as it is? I say, let them be happy, and if you want to privately think they’re going to hell, go right ahead. But let them at least have the same joys of vowing eternal love to the one they’ve chosen in front of friends and family, proudly, the way you do.
So why is a straight chick like me rooting for the gay guys and lesbians of the world? Because just like the white, straight, wealthy, Christian man who votes Democrat for my sake rather than his own, I don’t always have to vote just for my own benefit; I’d rather vote to help those who really need the help—that’s what laws are for; and because, I’d rather vote to do what’s right.
So please do the right thing too, come November 4th. Vote Obama (just kidding! You don’t have to if you’re fiscally disinclined to, you lucky, rich jerks!). But please do vote yes on Love by voting NO on Prop 8! Because Love, scarce as it is in this world, should be honored and protected in any form, and tolerance makes the world better for everyone.
So again, Vote Yes on Love by Voting no on 8!
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, guys—and have an awesome, love-filled day!
Love, <3
Cy : )
P.S. Sorry, I should mention this is a prop in California to end the legalization of gay marriage here--those of you who are out of state, I hope you'll support similar initiatives when they come to your state (and congrats to those in Vermont, Massachusetts and Hawaii who have already done the right thing!). Pray for California!!
P.P.S. Btw, I've never seen a "No on 8" poster anywhere around here because their campaign has no money.
Please donate, if you can (I did!)--it's a worthy cause! (and tax deductible~ <3)